Flirting with Props, Part 2: Gloves
Gloves…once an essential part of both ladies’ and gentlemen’s wardrobes. If you had any claim to gentility you did not stir out of doors without them, summer or winter. You wore them when making calls, when shopping, driving or riding, going to parties, and dancing—the only time you took them off was at a meal. In fact, letting a young man touch your ungloved hand was considered quite risqué (and very titillating as a result!) So I don’t suppose it’s terribly surprising that Mr. Shafer included a list of Glove Flirtations for the edification of fashionable young ladies and gentlemen in his Secrets of Life Revealed. Here’s his take on glove flirtations:
Like the handkerchief, the glove at times takes an important part in flirtations. The following are the known rules on the subject:
Biting the tips: I wish to be rid of you very soon
Clenching them, rolled up in right hand: No
Drawing halfway on the left hand: Indifference
Dropping both of them: I love you
Dropping one of them: Yes
Folding up carefully: Get rid of your company
Holding the tips downward: I wish to be acquainted
Holding them loose in the right hand: Be contented
Holding them loose in the left hand: I am satisfied
Left hand with the naked thumb exposed: Do you love me?
Putting them away: I am vexed
Right hand with the naked thumb exposed: Kiss me
Smoothing them out gently: I am displeased
Striking them over the shoulder: Follow me
Tapping the chin: I love another
Tossing them up gently: I am engaged
Turning them inside out: I hate you
Twisting them around the fingers: Be careful, we are watched
Using them as a fan: Introduce me to your company
Somehow, going to the trouble of turning a pair of kid gloves inside out just to tell someone that you loathe them seems a little over the top—isn’t a stony glare just before turning one’s back on someone equally effective? And what about “smoothing them out gently” meaning “I am displeased”? Does smoothing them out violently mean “I’m so mad I could spit nails”? Unfortunately this system doesn’t seem to allow for shades of meaning…
Next time: Flirting with Fans.
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“Treat them with kid gloves,” meaning with delicacy and diplomacy.
That’s because kid gloves are not only expensive, they are fragile. Having your maid put them on and take them off ONCE distorted their shape, especially the long, over the elbow evening gloves. Ladies of quality went through dozens of pairs a month. So flirting with them was not something one did casually.
By my senior prom I’m very glad we had synthtic silk. I used them for years until the fashion changed. After that they became costume props.