I hope we’re moving that way, moving toward a world in which cultural ideas of gender and the insistence that everyone fit into a binary male/female society, one in which your cultural role and your gender are dictated by your birth biology (and in which anyone whose birth biology is not obvious is either forced into one or the other or treated as a freak), is considered a relic of uncivilized times. But we’re not there yet.
I crave a world of gender neutral pronouns and honorifics that can be used for everyone all the time. What I’d like to see is a reality in which gender didn’t infuse every conversation, no matter how minor. This will help us get to a point where we don’t make assumptions about what a person does or wants or can do based on their gender.
It will also allow politeness in circumstances where we don’t know a person’s gender. The current politeness of asking for preferred pronouns is a step in that direction, but if we had accepted neutral pronouns in use we could avoid insulting strangers.
I know my trans friends make an important point of being addressed by their gender. The key issue for them is that some people make a point of misgendering them on purpose, as an insult. That’s a related and equally important point.
I suspect the people who delight in misgendering people to insult them — who probably overlap to a large degree with those who call groups of men “ladies” or “girls” to imply that their performance is subpar — will not want to go along with gender-neutral pronouns and honorifics. One suspects they have no conception of themselves except as defined by a culturally imposed gender identity tied to their biology.
Too bad for them. The future is leaving them behind.