Ur Doing It Rite

Throes of Creation, Leonid Pasternak

I am one of those neurotic folks who thinks that everyone else was issued a full set of instructions at birth. For everything–friendship, clothes, housekeeping, parenting, business.   Mostly I’ve learned to background that assumption, or even forget it for long periods of time.  (I am always convinced that people I think are cool must have homes that are tidier and cleaner and better organized than mine.  Visiting these people is often eye-opening, and yet I keep expecting the people whose work I admire to have homes like pages from House and Garden.)  There are situations–job hunting, class reunions, etc.–that revive that anxiety, but mostly I know better.

Except about writing.  It’s not that I think everyone else’s writing is better than mine–I have seen enough to know that that’s not true.  There are some kinds of things I will never be able to write, and some writers I outstrip, and that’s just the way it is.  But process? Ah, process.  That’s where the neurotic certainty that I didn’t get the memo really kicks in.

There are a zillion books out there that will tell you how to write.  My mother used to give me the more high-flown, literary ones (she wanted to write literary short stories in the Updike/O’Hara style; failing that, she wanted me to write literary short stories etc.).  I never bought any for myself (and I’m sorry to say I never read any of the books Mom bought me).  Why?  Am I too good for advice?  Not hardly.  When a friend says “Oh, I have that problem too; you know what works for me?” I listen.  I’ve learned a lot in just that way.  It’s possible, nay, probable, that I would learn excellent things in all the writing books out there, if I read them.  But I have a superstitious, deeply irrational fear of messing with my process, which means I don’t actually look too closely at how I power myself through writing, lest it somehow evaporate.

See, I’m still convinced that everyone else got the memo.  Memo-less, I’ve been making it up as I go along for decades.  I have a series of tricks and strategies I’ve used when I lose steam on a project or get wholly derailed; I know some things about how I work (I always, always hit a speed bump somewhere between chapter 5 and chapter 7 of a book.  I have theories about why, but really, the important part is that I no longer panic when it happens).  For the rest, it’s kind of a mystery to me.  You know what? It works for me.

When I was at Clarion, Kate Wilhelm described the way she put a book together, and her husband Damon Knight sat right next to her, pleased but mystified by the process she described.  “I tried her process once,” he said later.  “It was interesting.”

I guess the burden of this particular song is: whether you got the memo or not, if what you’re doing works, it works.  If you’re writing, and your work is progressing, Ur Doing it Rite.


About Madeleine E. Robins

Madeleine Robins is the author of The Stone War, Point of Honour, Petty Treason, and The Sleeping Partner (the third Sarah Tolerance mystery, available from Plus One Press). Her Regency romances, Althea, My Dear Jenny, The Heiress Companion, Lady John, and The Spanish Marriage are now available from Book View Café. Sold for Endless Rue , an historical novel set in medieval Italy, was published in May 2013 by Forge Books


Ur Doing It Rite — 5 Comments

  1. “I am one of those neurotic folks who thinks that everyone else was issued a full set of instructions at birth.”

    That is exactly how I feel, and how I felt growing up. There’s a reason I became a fan of Miss Manners (OMG she’s offering a map!).

    As to writing, I find my process is radically different for different projects. Sometimes I work from elaborate outlines/timelines, sometimes I’m completely seat-of-the-pants. I’ve stopped trying to figure it out. Whatever works, and keeps me working, is the right process.

  2. Everybody feels that way. I read a biography of Rose Wilder Lane once, in which she complained how she felt alienated and left out of her rural community in the Ozark mountains. We -all- feel like we are the only one! I am not sure that if we all knew that it would lower the number of school shootings by alienated teens.

  3. Yep, I missed that memo too (and probably a dozen more).

    I describe my writing process as something akin to that awesome Big Sneeze you feel coming on which inexplicably fizzles out at the end (especially after that rare occasion when you were actually able to grab a kleenex beforehand to avoid spraying your computer screen).